tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post111465341251506561..comments2023-11-10T10:36:02.301+02:00Comments on From Cairo, with love.: Arranged marriagesMohamedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00397206715607675175noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-90039295638296825132012-06-24T12:19:54.362+02:002012-06-24T12:19:54.362+02:00Halo people..Now this is interesting..
Wish we had...Halo people..Now this is interesting..<br />Wish we had this 'Saloon Marriage ' thng in India too...<br />I must agree..The whole task of meetng guys in order to decide whether he can b the one is quite taxing :)Maria Islamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02927826227430648605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-80912195455448374022011-07-17T21:30:07.337+02:002011-07-17T21:30:07.337+02:00There is one thing you are all missing. The effec...There is one thing you are all missing. The effect of the economy on the Egyptian society. Young men in Egypt are shying away from marriage commitment for lack of work, and the extravagant demands of young girls seeking marriage. Also, let's not forget the ratio of men to women. In Egypt there are 4 women to every man available for marriage. Long time ago the meaning of arranged marriage Lailahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13941077917481061577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-52976739643706408312007-11-18T12:05:00.000+02:002007-11-18T12:05:00.000+02:00"marriage is an institution made by women for wome..."marriage is an institution made by women for women." <BR/><BR/>Actually the opposite is true, not surprisingly, seeing as how society has been typically dominated by male interests. <BR/><BR/>Men benefit from (good)marriage more than the woman does, in terms of health, sanity etc.<BR/><BR/>A good book explaining the mechanisms behind this is The Moral Animal (too much to explain here, but JRChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06653405158080407035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1121498653078459842005-07-16T10:24:00.000+03:002005-07-16T10:24:00.000+03:00More than 50% of U.S. marriages end in divorce. I...More than 50% of U.S. marriages end in divorce. I would imagine arranged marriages could do no worse.Troy Wormanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06544953925910205966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1120820148076630412005-07-08T13:55:00.000+03:002005-07-08T13:55:00.000+03:00I am thinking about the statement again now, hehe....I am thinking about the statement again now, hehe.. Very interesting interpretation. I like it!Mohamedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00397206715607675175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1120818840200513692005-07-08T13:34:00.000+03:002005-07-08T13:34:00.000+03:00Willow & MoPlease note that The statement: "Marria...Willow & Mo<BR/>Please note that The statement: "Marriage is an institution made by women for women" indeed has roots in the very old history of human development. Men were Hunters, Women on the other hand were gatherers of Plants, Flowers & seasonal foods. Eventually Women invented "Agriculture", and "Settled" every bodies in the "Agrarian" societies. Women, were in the lead then ( and very Al Shariefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15529203856903350085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1120801957763128652005-07-08T08:52:00.000+03:002005-07-08T08:52:00.000+03:00Twosret,Yes I think am done with this topic too. I...Twosret,<BR/><BR/>Yes I think am done with this topic too. I think everyone's position is now clear. Let's not get into an argument about terminology.LouLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02443208498887256473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1120777494577573262005-07-08T02:04:00.000+03:002005-07-08T02:04:00.000+03:00Craig,I still disagree with the term being used on...Craig,<BR/><BR/>I still disagree with the term being used on arranged marriages. Prostitution is not a favorable word used here in the US, England or Canada. When you actually use it people give you the dirty look if you know what I mean.<BR/><BR/>I think it can be used as marketing in return for money in general but it always impact a negative effect or opinion.<BR/><BR/>May be it is used more Twosrethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07933691355572314184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1120729066984779402005-07-07T12:37:00.000+03:002005-07-07T12:37:00.000+03:00"That's the most imporatnt ingredient in my opinio..."That's the most imporatnt ingredient in my opinion, besides love :)<BR/>"<BR/><BR/><BR/>Thank you for saying that. So you do believe in love. I was starting to think you were one of those people who keep telling me love has nothing to with marriage.LouLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02443208498887256473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1120716994482174612005-07-07T09:16:00.000+03:002005-07-07T09:16:00.000+03:00Craig,I still believe the three of us are talking ...Craig,<BR/><BR/>I still believe the three of us are talking different language :)Twosrethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07933691355572314184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1120685830994472152005-07-07T00:37:00.000+03:002005-07-07T00:37:00.000+03:00Well, I can agree with what you said here, dishone...Well, I can agree with what you said here, dishonesty destroys trust, and what marriage can succeed without trust? That's the most imporatnt ingredient in my opinion, besides love :)programmer craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17566950406349754166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1120673730301153912005-07-06T21:15:00.000+03:002005-07-06T21:15:00.000+03:00"I really don't agree with you about being prostit..."I really don't agree with you about being prostitues becaues they endeaver to please their spouse."<BR/><BR/>Who said anything about pleasing your spouse?We were talking about pretending to be someone you're not in order to get someone who would not otherwise be interested in you to marry you because the surrounding culture thinks you suit each other in social class or position or educational LouLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02443208498887256473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1120672044089360532005-07-06T20:47:00.000+03:002005-07-06T20:47:00.000+03:00LouLou, I really don't agree with you about being ...LouLou, I really don't agree with you about being prostitues becaues they endeaver to please their spouse - in fact, I think a marriage between two people who are unwilling to change their behavior is doomed. However, I don't disagree enough to argue with you about it :)<BR/><BR/>I still don't like the word "prostitute" being applied to politics... I think it muddies the waters. If somebody is a programmer craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17566950406349754166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1120631169503418192005-07-06T09:26:00.000+03:002005-07-06T09:26:00.000+03:00No Willow, ofcourse its not my opinion. At certain...No Willow, ofcourse its not my opinion. At certain times, this statement could sound right though. Regarding the huge dowries, I used to think of marriage as an investment with no return.<BR/><BR/>I've seen lately that the most thing that makes many men here happy about their marriages and make them 'surrender', is their kids (not their wives)! I think that sucks.Mohamedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00397206715607675175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1120621107122584272005-07-06T06:38:00.000+03:002005-07-06T06:38:00.000+03:00LouLou,Thanks for the explanation. I can totally u...LouLou,<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the explanation. I can totally understand your first post and relate to how you feel. I lived in Egypt for three years and I could see how the whole world revolve around the marriage topic.<BR/><BR/>This is the first time I hear this term applied to arranged marriages or relationships in general. Would it apply to other kinds of marriages also? Is this term used a lot Twosrethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07933691355572314184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1120619251313782852005-07-06T06:07:00.000+03:002005-07-06T06:07:00.000+03:00Well put Loulou. Also, what you said earlier sums ...Well put Loulou. Also, what you said earlier sums up what I think of this thing: "At the end of the day what is important is that he's the right guy - not how I met him. Through my mother, through a friend, walking on the street, whatever."Mohamedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00397206715607675175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1120605368745811212005-07-06T02:16:00.000+03:002005-07-06T02:16:00.000+03:00Twosret,When we talk about a political or intellec...Twosret,<BR/><BR/>When we talk about a political or intellectual prostitute we don't mean he/she is sleeping with anyone. We mean that he/she sells his/her personal convictions to the highest bidder i.e. in exchange for the best political position & the most power.Political prostitutes serve any regime even if its moral standards or political beliefs are opposed to theirs.<BR/><BR/>Similarly if ILouLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02443208498887256473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1120592898234899452005-07-05T22:48:00.000+03:002005-07-05T22:48:00.000+03:00Craig,I don't mean to be out of topic here but tha...Craig,<BR/><BR/>I don't mean to be out of topic here but that is what I call prostitution ;) http://www.solomonia.com/blog/archives/006054.shtml<BR/><BR/>I'm doing some research for my new article on Jewish-Americans vs. Arab-Americans and I came across the above....Now if we look at how the Jackson football mal-function mania crap and this event we will see the hypocrisy right there. <BR/><BR/>Twosrethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07933691355572314184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1120584837296108712005-07-05T20:33:00.000+03:002005-07-05T20:33:00.000+03:00Yeah, Twosret, that term gets used way too much. T...Yeah, Twosret, that term gets used way too much. There are still a lot of militant feminists in the US who claim all marriage is prostitution. They make a seemingly logical case, but it's completetly contrary to human nature.programmer craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17566950406349754166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1120579206281107572005-07-05T19:00:00.000+03:002005-07-05T19:00:00.000+03:00"Prostituting" WOT?! a genius expression that is....."Prostituting" WOT?! a genius expression that is....yeah right lol last time I heard of a 3aris visiting a 3arousa's house he opened his zipper and she sat there moaning and the parents were watching.<BR/><BR/>I think we need to be very careful judging a meduim that our parents have chosen to themselves that brought us to this world.Twosrethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07933691355572314184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1120563716986345682005-07-05T14:41:00.000+03:002005-07-05T14:41:00.000+03:00I think of arranged marriage as marrying someone I...I think of arranged marriage as marrying someone I met through my family. At the end of the day what is important is that he's the right guy - not how I met him. Through my mother, through a friend, walking on the street, whatever.<BR/><BR/>Having said that I will agree with Mohamed that in a sense it is prostituting yourself. I mean a few days back my mother freaked out because I walked in from LouLouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02443208498887256473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1120533735736324982005-07-05T06:22:00.000+03:002005-07-05T06:22:00.000+03:00I always say you never know where you will find yo...I always say you never know where you will find your soul mate. Fate plays a big role.<BR/><BR/>7 years ago in Boca Raton, Florida, USA I went to school with a Jewish, Italian, Moroccan and Irish girlfriends and they have set me up pretty much. <BR/><BR/>I don't think it was bizzare, I took it lightly and joked around. Sometimes I will hide in the powder room and totally refuse to go back to theTwosrethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07933691355572314184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1120522255302801522005-07-05T03:10:00.000+03:002005-07-05T03:10:00.000+03:00hi sally come on , my cousins are in the sates and...hi <BR/>sally come on , my cousins are in the sates and one of them get married in saloon way , by the way it is more common in the states bec arabs get to know each other over there bec their chance to meet people of the same culture is less and i know actually some there did that , <BR/><BR/>ok regarding the traditional marriage well in the past i used to hate this way bec i eas looking for a roorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07973984567493121639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1120516916109291382005-07-05T01:41:00.000+03:002005-07-05T01:41:00.000+03:00if you are desparately looking for a wife, and eve...if you are desparately looking for a wife, and everywhere you go you look at every girl you see and think if this could be the one? and one day in an outing you really see a girl that you like. you don't know her from before, so it is just the most superficial things you know, like what you can know from a salon meeting. and you tell her after the outing/meeting whatever, that you are interested dosharhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05036726029604983305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10639763.post-1120514929456142902005-07-05T01:08:00.001+03:002005-07-05T01:08:00.001+03:00I don't think it's "awkward and bizarre" and I com...I don't think it's "awkward and bizarre" and I come from the states too! You know what bizarre? The mail order bride fad that was going around in the US in the 80s. Girl wants to come to the US so bad she'll marry some random fat bald guy twice her age, and that's a good marrriage!<BR/><BR/>Now, it's the internet, and not mail order. So many singles sights wouldn't exist if people weren't programmer craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17566950406349754166noreply@blogger.com