Wednesday, June 08, 2005

A night out

I went out with total strangers tonight, except for a guy and a half. My friend has been wanting me to go out with their group for a while now, and I've always had something else to do. For him, every new girl we meet is a potential bride, and he thinks that it will do me good! That reason aside, I joined him today. Different setting, meet new people, good change, why not.

It was a pretty casual outing, friends hanging around, chitchatting about whatever, not really that interesting. Found that connection between one of the girls and a close friend of mine who's not related to this group, small world, etc. etc., happens all the time. Then comes this girl that triggered me. She has this lesbian hard look with the sharp eye glasses. Very arrogant (and I hate arrogant people). We got to know about all her desert camping trips, and about all her Paris stories, and how she's going there again this September and October and November, how the Algerians speak their Frenched Arabic, and how she can't sleep at night before watching Amelie. I talk to her, and she gives me this look before responding (the who are you look), then gives brief answers --for a guy who deserves no more!

Later in the night, the setting got lighter, some left, she was eating that burger, and I made a joke about the way she was eating (well, that she ate half of the sandwich in one bite). Sorry, couldn't help it. She looks at them, points at me and says, "Who's this guy. I don't wanna see him again." I simply responded, "just don't look here again. Look the other way." So we ignore each other for a while, and then she starts asking me were I work, how I know those guys, "no no seriously, how did you get to know them, do you work with them?" I know I wasn't mean at all, it was just an innocent joke really. But a saying that one of my friends used to keep saying about women, and I used to always fight with him disagreeing with it just popped to my mind. I still disagree with it (especially that its rude), but some women, uhh, just get to you. So my friend used to keep saying what could be loosely translated to, "screw the girl and she'll love you, love the girl and she'll screw you." Hmm, I know one thing. He's being screwed big time now by his wife, and at some point he used to love her.

The outing ends safely, and my friend and I then go meet that activist friend in front of Chantille to get a copy of a video tape of the referendum day protests showing the women who were assaulted. We stand in the street talking for almost an hour, and I get to hear some interesting inside stories about the Youth for Change movement, about Kefaya and who's involved with them (which was a bit of a shock), about how the women provoked the security forces and the thugs, about how some of the demonstrators keep cursing the police force in their face (including their mothers and their religion), about how the Communists and the Revolutionary Socialists are trying to control those movements, about the revolutionary thought that overwhelms those people that the goal sometimes becomes to get hurt and arrested, while achieving the stated goal becomes a secondary objective, about stories of how Suzanne Mubarak is the one running the country and is pushing for Jimmy to take over, and Hosni is becoming a show puppet. The more you hear, the more you realize how messed up this whole thing is, how messed up this whole country is, those running it, and those opposing them --whether the stories are right or wrong.

That arrogant girl might've been better than all those actually.

18 comments:

Me, Myself and I said...

well for sure these are confusing times.A reform Ferment..Egypt for sure is changing..by whom, how, heading where, when???? these are the one million dlr questions..I just happen to be around many of those who are theorizing, giving their five cents-in the most absolute and authoritative manner, claiming to know the inside and outsides...etc.at the end of the day, find myself utterly confused and at loss..this mite sound a bit shocking...but now i sorta understand men who at the end of the day (literal) would attempt to shut things out.and simply seek the company of prostitutes or air heads or whatever..a way of zooming out..by the way...did she eat the second half in one bite..or she slowed down after the comment??...

haal said...

Cool that the arrogant girl triggers you. You like that, don't you? hehehe I second your friend's advice..

Mohamed said...

MMI, it was the second half that she ate in one bite (or so I claimed!).
Haal, what's my friend's advice? He was astonished that I clashed with her. He tells me she used to be veiled. Ma 3aleina...

haal said...

The mal-treating vs. love advice. Of course not to be a real jerk (generally speaking) but to trigger her and quickly tear down the conservative mask that everyone puts on.

Mohamed said...

Astonished that a woman agrees with that saying, but I guess you're being honest. My friend who uses that saying didn't mean it to "trigger her and quickly tear down". He's more into using it as a lifestyle! But I second your interpretation of it, doing it the way you describe it would probably work.

Alina said...

"screw the girl and she'll love you, love the girl and she'll screw you." - Very funny! But it applies to men as well! Anyway, I know someone who took this advice quite literally and ended up sleeping with a new girl every night after being dumped by his fiancé. He went right by me (aka the female perfection, the goddess, etc :)) and I was really in love with him...Oh, well, tough luck! For him mostly...The moral of the fable? I think you should just keep your eyes wide open and when the right girl comes along, don't waste too much time playing the unreachable, untouchable, never gonna get me guy!

Mohamed said...

"and I was really in love with him...Oh, well, tough luck! For him mostly..."

Tough luck for him. That's for sure Kayla :)

Alina said...

Yeah, really tough luck..And he's not the only one to get in such a situation: you convince your self that all women are worthless and they couldn't possibly love you for who you are and you end up not seeing those who could give you just what you wanted. Women have the same issue - men let them down and they end up thinking there is really no guy living on this planet who could love them...

And, yeah, it is for sure :)) Actually, this perfect goddess joke was trademarked years ago by a friend of mine, but she lets me use it once in a while! :))

MoonLightShadow said...

"screw the girl and she'll love you, love the girl and she'll screw you."

Very True. It reminds me of a song by Hisham 3abass saying "sebha 7t7bak ya 2alby, 7ebaha tseebak"

Mohamed said...

Amazing.. all the girls agree. I was so wrong then disagreeing with that friend of mine!

Alina said...

I don't think it's a matter to agree on...It's just a strategy, and like any other strategy, it works or not depending on the given circumstances (who, when, with whoom, why)! :)

Mohamed said...

I hate strategies in relationships. But its just me.

Alina said...

I know how you feel! True love never requires strategizing. I've been given so many pieces of advice on how to act and what to do in a relationship my head hurts! What happened to just being yourself?

brenda said...

She sounds like a very insecure person and also not a very nice person (to act as if you should go away, etc.) I personally prefer to spend my time around men and women who are sincere, pleasant, and kind.

As for the other thing--love her and she'll screw you. Real love doesn't include games. Being real and speaking your truth, to always know where one stands, is much better than playing games, in my humble opinion

programmer craig said...

I think that tactic only works on women who are insecure, Mohamed... act like you don't want them and they need to prove to themselves that they can get you. I'm certain it works with men as well... I'm pretty sure I fell for it a few times, actually :)

But I also agree with what others said... no good relationship will come from that.

roora said...

HI too weired and too unjustice your friend's advice, we dont like to feeel insecure and keep following other partners' , i agree with criag , no good relation comes out of that

something else to add is that sometimes people arent irrognat but just shy to pseak in public with people they dont know well so they seen so

another thing what do u mean by " she used to be in veil , ma 3leina " , what does this statemnt denote for u too add ?

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